Trying to co-parent with your ex after a divorce can be a huge challenge, especially when the aftermath of the divorce is still fresh, or when you are dealing with a difficult ex who refuses to communicate without anger and manipulation. Between the drama of the courtroom and working through any range of emotions from anger to betrayal, it can seem impossible to make parenting decisions effectively with your ex.
That’s why I offer Co-Parenting Counseling in Denver at In Sight Counseling Connections. After having 20+ years of experience as a divorce therapist, a CFI, and a mediator, I have been able to help many individuals learn to communicate with their exes when it comes to making choices, sticking to parenting plans, and staying out of the court room. Even though I cannot and will not provide legal advice, I can work with you to develop the skills and tools to work through this stage of post-divorce and create a better environment for your children.
What is Co-Parenting?
Being able to co parent means that you and your spouse—either separated or divorced—have reached a place in your relationship where you can effectively parent your children together. Whether you and your ex are setting visitation schedules, talking to your kids about your divorce, or just making everyday decisions that affect your children, co-parenting is not impossible, though it might take a lot of work to get to a place of collaboration.
One of the primary goals of co-parenting is to make sure that the children are not in the middle of a antagonistic relationship between you and your ex. Sometimes, post-divorces can end up in volatile phone calls, personal details are being shared with your kids, or even parental alienation. This leaves the children stuck between two parents that they still love and need. In fact, the most traumatic thing for kids is not necessarily the divorce, but the hostile relationship that continues post-divorce between their parents. Even when you are dealing with a difficult, even narcissistic ex, it is so important to learn what you can do to alleviate the tension that your kids are stuck between. Co-parent therapy can help with exactly that.
What is Co-Parenting Counseling?
The primary goal of co-parenting counseling is to give you the tools to form an amicable relationship with your ex that allows you to parent your children to the best of your ability. This type of parent coaching does not mean marriage therapy, and it does not mean that you have to reconcile the relationship with your ex in order to effectively parent. In fact, most people come as an individual, rather than coming with their ex. Sometimes, both parents come together to work towards creating a better environment for their kids. Whatever the situation is, co-parenting is designed to help you benefit both your children, and your piece of mind when it comes to communicating with your ex spouse.
We specialize in co-parenting counseling at In Sight Counseling Connections in Denver, and we work together to accomplish goals like:
- Learning how to communicate with your ex in a more effective way
- Identifying what triggers you and your ex when it comes to your kids
- Learning how to shut down bullying, angry conversation, and manipulation
- Feeling more confident about yourself as a parent
- Following through with your parenting plan
- Establishing healthy boundaries for you and your ex-spouse
- Keeping your kids out of the middle
- Learning what emotions your children are going through after your divorce
- Creating a better environment for your children where they feel loved and nurtured
- Obtaining strategies for dealing with difficult, narcissistic exes (if applicable)
Schedule a Free Consultation
If you want to see if parent coaching at In Sight Counseling Connections is right for you, please feel free to contact me or give me a call. I offer free first consultations for everyone, so you can determine whether this will be beneficial for you. I offer my services both in the metro Denver area, as well as in Lakewood. Parenting with your ex may seem impossible, but together, we can create a plan that works for you and your children.
